In the 5th grade I remember wanting for one guy to ask me if I would be his girlfriend. All of the other girls I was friends with at the time had boyfriends. Even though I could not date at the time, all I wanted was this one guy. He was a country boy and lived in a log cabin. My dream was to have land and animals (mostly horses). Also, I thought this guy was so cute. In my home we had a picture of him hanging on the wall even though the picture of him was when we were much younger. This was the guy I desired to date from 5th grade until I was twenty years old.
Needless to say our lives in high school drifted apart. I believe when we were around 15 when he moved schools. I dated a guy pretty seriously most of my high school years and ended it at 18, but this one guy that I had knew most of my life and fallen in love with at just 10 years old was the guy that I would have dropped everything for. At the age of twenty I finally got the opportunity to date him for a short time. It was great! However, there was one thing. He was at a different stage of life than I was. I was in college at the time and working, and he had a little boy and a full time job. I dated him without telling anyone I was dating him for a couple months. Then he finally gave me the ultimatum. I had to let my family and friends know we were a couple or he was moving on. I was not ready for that stage of life, so our relationship ended. The one guy that for over ten years that I wanted and finally had the opportunity to date, I let slip through my hands.
Over the course of the next 8 months I did not date or talk to any other guys. I wanted to figure out who I was and what I wanted in life. However, in June of 2008 just as I was pulling back into town from being on a mission trip, I received a text from a guy at work. He asked if I would be up for dinner that evening. I declined because all I really wanted after a mission trip of cold showers, and food that was not my favorites was a hot shower and my bed. I asked for a rain check and the next day we went out to dinner at what became one of our most favorite restaurants.
This guy was the total opposite from anyone I had ever dated. He was a Yankee, had traveled most of the US and been to Canada and Mexico. He was not a country boy at all. He wore preppy clothes and choose to eat at swanky restaurants. This guy opened my eyes to a new life that I had never knew before. Over the course of our dating life he was a dream come true. He brought me flowers that he would hand pick when he was thinking of me. We went out to dinner several times a week. On the weekends he would read to me as we chilled and hung out. We watched movies all the time. We dated for 18 months before we got engaged.
You see this is not the guy I thought I was praying for. This was not the guy I had spent 10 years dreaming about marrying. He was so much more. While early in our marriage I would have thought our life would have been living near a beach and playing a lot of golf. We gave up all of that in 2019 and moved to 10 acres and in 2020 we started raising our own livestock. You see while he was not the man of my dreams. God had a plan for my life and this was the man that would fulfill my life long dreams. We now live on 20 acres, in the mountains that my soul longed for while we lived in middle GA. We have two amazing, beautiful, talented children that I would have never had if it were not for this man that opened my eyes to a whole new world almost 16 years ago. My husband is faithful and steadfast. He does not worry. He wakes every morning and reads his Bible. He is so much more than I could have ever dreamed of or even knew I needed to pray for. We are total opposites which can present challenges, but we are so good for each other.
To the girl that is out there right now not sure if she will get married or get to live the life she had always hoped for. I hope you read this and know that God has a plan and he cares so much about the little details.
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